Make one small decision yourself
One of the quietest harms of a heavily supported life is what happens to personal decision-making.
When most decisions go through workers, coordinators, or family meetings, the ability to just decide something - and trust that decision - slowly erodes. This habit rebuilds it.
Why This Matters
For disabled people especially, having decisions made by or deferred to others is often framed as support or safety. Over time it becomes something else: a life where you are consulted but not the one who decides. Making small decisions and following through builds the evidence, for your own mind, that you can lead your own life.
How to do it
1. Find a real decision to make
Something that genuinely requires a choice, something like: What to eat tonight, whether to rearrange your room, what to do with a free afternoon. Small enough to act on today.
2. Make it yourself
Don't check with a worker. Don't put it to the family. Just decide. Notice if there's a pull to get someone else's agreement first.
3. Follow through and notice what happened
Do what you decided, then notice: not whether it was perfect, but that you made a call and carried it out. That is the whole thing.
Worth knowing
This habit is not about making good decisions. It is about gathering evidence, for yourself, that you are someone who decides. That evidence accumulates. It changes what you think is possible.
